Playing the bad guy

In our final foray into the drama triangle we looking at the Persecutor. You know, I sometimes say to my friends, when it comes to kids/coaching (similar skillset!) I occasionally have to play the bad guy. By which I mean I have to make the difficult decision or challenge someone’s behaviour. But playing the bad … Read more

We all want to play the Victim sometimes

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I shared last week about being a recovering Rescuer and it resonated with many of you. So much so, I thought I’d do a little mini-series on the roles in Karpman Drama Triangle…this week is playing the Victim. What is the victim role? When people choose to play the Victim, they get to have their … Read more

Reflections of a recovering rescuer

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I have been a Rescuer my whole life, as long as I can remember. I’ve needed to protect, nurture and save others. It all sounds very kind and loving, doesn’t it? But there’s a darker side to being a Rescuer…like offering unsolicited advice; doing things for others (thereby not allowing them to do it for … Read more

The powerful butterfly

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My kids love The Hungry Caterpillar but today I want to talk about the powerful butterfly. Although butterflies are only here for a short time they bring joy to those who see them. Have you ever chased a butterfly through a field, or seen a child doing it, laughing with glee? Perhaps you’ve been lucky … Read more

It’s OK to feel your feelings

I wanted to get this out there: it’s ok to feel your feelings. So often we put a brave face on or bury our feelings down so we don’t think about them… but they have a habit of bubbling back up to the surface. I can always tell when our eldest daughter is struggling with … Read more